tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post7650479838347927674..comments2016-04-24T17:32:30.301-07:00Comments on Brooklyn Single Mama: Whoops….Women With Children are Not Contagious...Jenn Nelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15811064978186607272noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-45297844212981640212014-03-10T02:01:27.641-07:002014-03-10T02:01:27.641-07:00WordWordSarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-88574664248533683302014-03-10T01:59:38.227-07:002014-03-10T01:59:38.227-07:00This is brilliant Jenn. These are the things that ...This is brilliant Jenn. These are the things that need to be said about single mothers that no one actually says. Thanks for your honesty. Sarah Faderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00130247223287762814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-62593877849280382172014-03-09T20:11:17.643-07:002014-03-09T20:11:17.643-07:00You raise some good points. And that was my initia...You raise some good points. And that was my initial reaction when I encountered all of these men who had no interest in dating women with children. Did they want someone who was out all night partying who had no real sense of responsibility? I think it's more so that a man knows that he can't just show up at a woman's house who has children and whisk her away for the weekend spontaneously. She's gotta get childcare in place. The truth is, we as mothers don't have the same freedom as women who don't have children. However, we also have a lot of qualities that childless women lack. Jenn Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15811064978186607272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-40469021194232817452014-03-09T16:18:26.654-07:002014-03-09T16:18:26.654-07:00You ARE pretty awesome Jenn.
Before I was married...You ARE pretty awesome Jenn.<br /><br />Before I was married, I dated two women with children. Neither budding relationship worked out for various reasons which were not related to them having children. One of them is still one of the loveliest friends I could ever hope for, and her son is amazing too. The reasons I allowed myself to love and be with these women, despite their having children, were many...<br /><br />The women were worth it. Their kids were sweet and also worth my time and love. As units, these women and their children enriched my life in many ways. Generally, these single moms were more well put together in terms of maturity than most women I met. They cared about others more, had more depth and honesty, liked to get to the point (which is completely hot to me), were more assertive (also hot), and showed more genuine interest in spending alone time with me.<br /><br />But generally, I was never #1. And I LOVED it. I like alone time. Mom and kid gonna go spend time together? Great! Also, I liked being a part of those kids' lives in those relationships. And I liked having them around to break up alone time, because me and the mom didn't really have time to get all dramatic with one another or worry too much about petty bullshit. I agreed the kid should be the priority. To me, that wasn't rocket science.<br /><br />Also, if a guy doesn't like being around kids, that shit doesn''t bode well for anybody.Trauma Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03163327922790766716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-84550269730651151192014-03-09T16:14:39.159-07:002014-03-09T16:14:39.159-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Trauma Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03163327922790766716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-43896757605776209022014-03-09T14:24:39.141-07:002014-03-09T14:24:39.141-07:00Thank you for taking the time to read my blog! As ...Thank you for taking the time to read my blog! As I said in my post, no judgment! I once internalized these stereotypes as well. However, becoming a single mom completely changed my perspective! It's important to address ignorance because that is what leads to so much other petty bs..Jenn Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15811064978186607272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4486838277043364280.post-26099917569572225782014-03-09T13:52:47.944-07:002014-03-09T13:52:47.944-07:00Well said. Those "haters" in my experien...Well said. Those "haters" in my experience have undisclosed "issues" . . . thank you for opening this important conversation. Dr. Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02350237237937924748noreply@blogger.com